Eleven New Ways To Increase Your Self-Esteem!

 Stick to your Values: Don't violate your own value system. Write down your values and beliefs–and then work hard to stick by them. Nothing can destroy self-esteem like violation of your own beliefs, creeds and values. 

 Listen To Your Conscience: If you feel something is wrong, don't do it. Stop ignoring the internal voices that knows when you are doing wrong. Pay attention.

* Emulate Who You Admire: Who do you admire most? Why do you admire this person or persons? Once you pinpoint the actions and/or qualities that you so admire, emulate them. Often we admire those who mirror what we wish we could be.

* Refuse To Be Mistreated: Do you continually let yourself be mistreated? Do you allow yourself to be a helpless victim? Stop putting aside your dignity and self-respect. Walk away from people who only mistreat and don't really care about you.

* Do One Thing You Fear Each Day: Every day, break through the barriers of fear that prevent you from doing and being all you are capable of. Challenge yourself each day to confront a fear and face it down. You'll be surprised how quickly walls come down when you run towards, rather than away, from your fears.

* Treat Others With Love: Just as you should refuse to be mistreated, you also need to refuse to mistreat others. Make it a habit to treat others–even those you dislike–with love. Make the act of love a part of your daily life.

* Educate Yourself: There is no need to feel stupid about anything, when there are thousands of books available at libraries and bookstores on any subject imaginable. Start reading. Read about the topics that interest you. Set out to educate yourself through books.

* Let Go Of Shame: Do you hear the voice of shame constantly putting you down and scolding you? Often, we have feelings of shame leftover from childhood. Get in touch your shame. Listen to it, and then firmly ask it to leave. Tell it that its job of keeping in line is over. Fire shame–tell shame that its services are no longer needed. Silence that voice forever. You don't deserve to be ashamed.

* Forgive Yourself: Yes, you've done lots of stupid things. Yes, you've goofed up big time. Now forgive yourself. Bestow upon yourself the healing power of forgiveness. Embrace your humanity–even the parts of you that are not perfect. Tell yourself it is okay to not be perfect.

* Talk Nicely To Yourself: Do you practice verbal self-abuse? Do you bombard yourself with negative and pessimistic thoughts? Do you constantly berate and shame yourself? Stop–stop now. Start talking to yourself as you would a precious child. Talk to yourself like you are a child who deserves to be given love, honor, respect and dignity. Be polite with yourself. Treat yourself as kindly as you would the person you love best in this world.

* Celebrate Your Mistakes: Stop worrying about your mistakes. Mistakes are part of life. We learn from our mistakes. Mistakes are the stepping stones to success. Rather than letting mistakes tarnish your self-esteem, allow your mistakes to enpower you.

Characteristics of the Noncomitting Man

 He pulls back when you want more of a commitment

* Other aspects of life take priority over you

* He puts little work into the relationship

* When you show less interest, he pursues you.

* He makes excuses for not being involved in a single relationship

* He's charming and fun to be around

* He is always involved with several women or overlapping relationships

* He likes to be entertained rather than spending quiet times together

* He never answers his phone in the evenings because he's out chasing skirts

* He is secretive about the details of his life

* If the phone rings when you are at his house, he lets the answering machine pick it up

* He seems to get his emotional needs met elsewhere

* You catch him in "white" lies

i must follow what i feel

Lastnight i should have not ignored his text..ive been so cold with him lately because he dont spend enough time for me..But that shouldnt be the case, since im free this summer then it should be me who would adjust his time..one should give way or understand once partner in order for it to last…Well with this relationship that were having, i know its impossible for it to last but still im holding on with it, cause that person still brightens and fill in my days…He explained everything and thats good enough for me…i promise myself to be more understanding with this guy…every time i decided to let go he kept on giving me reasons to stay…and as of the moment il stay as long as we both wants to…and with regards about friends, this time i wont be open to them about my personal life especially if it deals with man…cause they kept on giving me unsolicited advice which unconsciously runs into my mind…they generalized all MEN, i still i do believed that not all MEN are the same…to some but not to all.And besides some friends are not really sincere with the advice they gave..some just envy and would want others to suffer with the life that they are having…

Trying…..

Here he goes again…i tried so hard not to text Mr. OR the whole saturday morning, but i got a text msg from him at 7pm just a plain "Hello" …….to dry isnt it…things have changed but i irgnored his text…simple hello means nothing to me..i want more than that, for 2 days of not getting text from him and he will just text me with that message..I do think i deserve more than that..4 hrs later his texting me this msg "sleeping na? goodnight" but still i did not reply. Since he can ignore my text, then why should i not do the same…Ive realized  that ive been so understanding with him and i allowed him to the point of ignoring me, then ishould change my style right.. since all of this things  are  just a game to him, why not change some moves… i dont know whats install for me today but i do hope that i wont be temped to reply his text…

mixed emotion

 i dont know if i still have to believe on what he texted me this morning..He was sorry for not texting prior to that day…his reasons was his having a  13 hrs OR, and too busy to load..i dont know if i still have to buy on that crap…cause i still do believe in that saying "if theres a will theres a way" he just dont know how depressed i was that day and before the day ends i texted him to stop this whole thing cause i hate waiting and leaving me stranded…i always have this feeling that maybe his just too gentle on letting go of me…i dont know how to figure him out…but still he denied that he havent receive my text…so to cut it short and since he did not ask what that message about, Again im giving him another chance as if nothing happends..he told me that we would be busy for two day and he will just text me this coming saturday..I still do like him so much that whatever he says il just agrree on it.. and besides we dont talk about whats this relationship of ours is all about…so whatever it is il just savor each day may it good or bad as long as its with on the guy that makes my day a lot brighter…

deeply wounded

just in time for holy week…its like im experiencing the stations of the cross..im feeling deeply wounded today, i hope this wont take so long cause i might not be able to endure the pain..